Back in the Day
Do Something He Enjoyed Before You Got Married
“Lust is easy. Love is hard. Like is most important.” ~ Carl Reiner
I love this quote. I once heard a husband who had been married to his wife for over 50 years say, “It’s great if you love your spouse, but love can fluctuate throughout time. To make a marriage last, you have to like the person.” Do you like your husband?
Initiate an activity that your partner used to love. Whether it’s his favorite hobby, sport, or pastime, it’s time for you to get involved – be his buddy today.
- Many a man’s hobby has gone by the wayside due to matrimony. Is it possible that it’s time you learned to golf or fly fish? Don’t try to beat him, just join him.
- Possibly the only thing your husband would enjoy more than playing chess with you is teaching you how to play chess. Ask for a lesson so he can teach you something that he is an expert at (or really loves). Just your willingness to learn will be a huge boost to your guy.
- Pick up a magazine about your guy’s now dormant hobby. Ask him questions about why he loves it so much. Learn a couple of technical terms so that you are better able to discuss it.
- Do a little research. Find out what the definitive website is on your husband’s favorite subject. Maybe there’s an event in town, a lecture to attend, or a game to watch.
How it went…
I am all for my husband hanging with his guy friends. Yes, we’re still newlyweds and don’t have kids, but I think it’s good for each of us to spend time with our friends and by ourselves to keep ourselves balanced. I can’t wait to see how we can balance that as time goes on.Some of his hobbies have gone dormant, but a new one has evolved. Brewing! Yup, my honey has started brewing his own beer – a very ‘guy’ hobby. It’s something he can enjoy with his friends and I got involved!
My husband enjoys doing things together, and working on his hobby as a couple made our time together that much more enjoyable. I’d like to think he enjoyed it more than just another set of hands to help out. ;)
What did you do?After you complete this project, come back and post your name and your results for Project #2 below, every time you post your results to a project you're entered to win a copy of The Husband Project! For additional entries, post your results after each project. (i.e. you can enter to win up to 5 times by posting your results on every project) At the end of the project I will pick a winner at random Sunday 9/25 evening.
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